--- title: "On Regret: Summary & Takeaways | Zenith Clubhouse" url: https://www.zenithclubhouse.com/articles/on-regret description: "Gilad explores regret as a universal, often involuntary mental habit of returning to past decisions and replaying what could have gone…" lang: en --- Substack · Summary # On Regret By Boaz Gilad (https://www.zenithclubhouse.com/boaz-gilad) · September 20, 2026 · 1 min read Gilad explores regret as a universal, often involuntary mental habit of returning to past decisions and replaying what could have gone differently—after painful words, missed opportunities, damaged relationships, or costly risks. Rather than treating regret as something to suppress or as proof of enlightenment when absent, he frames it as raw material: a signal that can either trap someone in repetitive suffering or be converted into usable wisdom. Image: Cover image for “On Regret”, an essay by Boaz Gilad on Substack (https://www.zenithclubhouse.com/__l5e/assets-v1/4f2c3772-6b92-4c23-b8e1-50e5ed502904/on-regret.webp) ## What is "On Regret" about? Gilad explores regret as a universal, often involuntary mental habit of returning to past decisions and replaying what could have gone differently—after painful words, missed opportunities, damaged relationships, or costly risks. Rather than treating regret as something to suppress or as proof of enlightenment when absent, he frames it as raw material: a signal that can either trap someone in repetitive suffering or be converted into usable wisdom. The essay walks through a process for extracting lessons from specific regrets, such as asking harder questions before major decisions, telling the truth earlier, trusting the body's signals sooner, and not mistaking fear for patience or chemistry for trust. He emphasizes that the goal isn't to erase the memory or pretend it doesn't sting, but to identify what concrete action the lesson now requires—an apology, a boundary, a new rule, or a conversation—and to consciously release the loop once the lesson is taken. The piece closes with a mantra distinguishing going back to suffer from going forward with wisdom. In brief ## What are the key takeaways? 1. 01 Regret is normal and can be useful raw material rather than something to eliminate or feel ashamed of. 2. 02 The goal is extracting a concrete lesson (a rule, boundary, or action) from the past event, not just replaying it. 3. 03 Release the loop once the lesson is taken—return to the memory for wisdom, not to relive suffering. This is a summary. Read the complete essay by Boaz Gilad on Substack. Read the full essay on Substack (https://boazgilad.substack.com/p/on-regret) Topics - Discipline - Decision-making - Execution - Mindset Questions ## Questions about this essay ### What is "On Regret" by Boaz Gilad about? ### What are the key takeaways from "On Regret"? ### How can I apply "On Regret" this week? ### Where can I read the full "On Regret" essay? 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